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Dating with Cystic Fibrosis

Dating is fun and exciting, but it also comes with its own issues to navigate, add CF on top of that and it can feel more daunting than exciting. The dating tips you might be looking for may not get addressed by Cosmo or Buzzfeed, so we asked our community for their advice for you!

  • “In regards to dating, I would offer that being forthright about your health when you feel the time is right is paramount. I would not advise one to wait too long to share his/her health background. Being honest about whom you are, I would offer, is invaluable. This demonstrates honesty, trust and your own acceptance of your health concerns moving forward. One’s willingness to share possible “vulnerabilities” and the display of dedication in attending to these may ultimately deepen a relationship. Respect for self and for others promotes better communication and more profound understanding in a relationship… I have found.” – Alex McCombes
  • “Dating with CF can be tricky; I never told anyone I was dating that I had CF until it became relevant to the relationship. I always wanted to find someone who liked me for who I was; of course, being accepting of CF plays a huge part of if a relationship in the long-term but not right off the bat. I also learned through trial and error that the ones who choose to stick around, CF doesn’t faze them. It’s a lot to take in, and can be scary…but it doesn’t change what or how they feel about you. If CF becomes a barrier in the relationship, it’s not worth it.” – Meaghan Macrury
  • “It’s been a while since I’ve been in the dating scene since I’ve been with my husband for nearly 15years, but when it came to dating and my health, I always found it easiest to be upfront and honest from the start. If they were supportive of my health needs then I knew they were the type of person I’d want to be with but if they weren’t, then I wouldn’t want to be with them anyway.” – Kim Wood
  • “Be open and honest right from the start. Chances are they have no idea what CF is and they will have lots of questions. Be patient with them. And never settle! You will find someone that understands you CF and how your needs are different.” – Mackenzie Norris
  • “Wow, this one brings back memories as it has been many years since I have been a part of the dating scene! When you feel that you have found that special person in your life, be honest with them about your health condition. If they go running for the hills, they were not the person you thought they were and you are better off without them, as much as it will hurt. True story: I dated a guy many years ago and really liked him. After the third date I told him to watch a program called the Nature of Things on CBC as they were featuring a story about CF and Lung transplants. I said this may be in my future and if we choose to be together you will have to go through this with me. Well, that man is now my husband, I received a transplant 14 years ago, and we are celebrating our 20th anniversary this year.” – Brenda Chambers-Ivey
  • “It’s always best to be upfront about having CF with someone you’re dating. That being said, you don’t have to launch into the possibility of not being able to have children or your personal feelings on mortality on the first date – gauge where the other person is at and let them come into your crazy CF world at their own pace. Just make sure the door is open!” – Terra Stephenson
  • “Although I have been with my wife for 17 years, I can remember that the only thing that was important to me when I was dating was to be real and share the realities of my life and illness so that my potential partner had all the info up front. Of course, I never unloaded everything on the first couple of dates, but as I got closer to people I definitely made it known that I had a major part of my life that needed to be shared honestly and openly.” – Timothy Vallillee
  • “As far as tips for dating with CF, I have none. I’ve been in a relationship for 11 years. Back then, I ignored my disease. It wasn’t bad enough that it was a daily struggle. I was always been open about having CF with anyone close to me so naturally, it became a subject of conversation with potential boyfriends.If it doesn’t work out, we may have less of a chance to find love again with our limited time.” – Jess Best

Have insights you would also like to share? To be quoted on our blog please contact Terra at tgillespie@cysticfibrosis.ca

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